You’re the kingpin of metro Seattle conservabloggers. You could argue that you’re a minor local celebrity. I mean, having a regular gig in The Stranger once upon a time counts for something, right? I mean, you’re not exactly MySpace maven Ken Schram, but a decent-sized chunk of the locals know who you are.
So, you know that with a little bit of celebrity comes a little bit of the fishbowl. If you aren’t thrifty, clean, loyal, and obey the law of the pack, then people are going to talk. And if you cultivate an image that’s counter to the conventional wisdom of everyone else in town, some people are going to be predisposed to having a negative opinion about you. Like this guy.
Having dealt with the constant vitriol by retreating to the safety of your young family, you schlep down to your local and have yourself some dinner. There’s this waitress there. Maybe she’s a little crazy, maybe she just hates you with the burning hate that’s hotter than the twin suns of Tatooine. Whatever. You undertip her by Seattle standards, 10%. (I mean, really Stefan, 10%? What did she do, serve you the BLUE Plate Special when you wanted it on a RED plate?) Maybe the kid was being five.
And then it turns out the waitress was blogging it.
Now, you had two options before you. You could take the high road, shrug it off, not even mention it on your blog, drop her a private email telling her to take all the shots at you but your family was off-limits, and just let it go.
But the high road… no, that’s not what Ol’ Stefan Sharkansky would do.
So, congratulations, Stefan. By publicly responding to something you probably should have just let go you made yourself look as petty as Ms. Vindictive did. In fact, now she’s a sympathetic character, and you look like a bloviating boob reinforcing this town’s stereotypes about the right wing. And bonus points for going after her at both her jobs!
Way to go!
Update (day late edition): Show’s over, folks. Or is it? No, it’s just turning into a gossipy pissing match. More like a slapfight, really.
I hemmed and hawed over whether I should delete this post. Ultimately, I’ve decided that stet is probably the right option. I’ve always been a optimist about blogs, that they are tools of great good that build community, spread ideas, and spread freedom and the free exchange of ideas. But there are some detractors who think blogs are nothing but aliterate devices of unprofessional people who act like thirteen year olds. To those who decry blogging, it’s about stroking egos, spreading libel and slander, and using massive retaliation, bullying, and intimidation to crush others.
And I usually wave those people off as just print journalists unwilling to grok the media paradigm shift of the last ten years. But then something like this comes along, where you have three people playing out exactly what they say happens — a little slander and a lot of bullying. So, in the end, I can’t delete this, because in a sense, I’d be saying that a single mom and a Stanford-educated computer programmer can’t act like a seventh grade drama queen and an eighth grade uber-bully instead of being adults.
The critics have a point. Doesn’t mean we can’t hope for better, but it is worrisome when they’re right.